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Turning Your Business Dreams Into Reality: Dealing with The Oppressor

Susan L. Reid

Frustrated womanAre you someone who has struggled with success all your life?

If you've been struggling with success much of your life, then you know what it's like to feel all lit-up from the inside one minute and then deflated the next. If struggle has become synonymous with success, you know about "The Oppressor."

Do the following remarks by The Oppressor sound familiar?

  • You know how this is going to turn out. Don't even bother.
  • Now, donít go getting all excited. You've never been able to pull it off before.
  • Why bother?
  • Who do you think you?
  • This time won't be any different.

What is oppression?

It's prolonged, unjust treatment or control. Generally, when we talk about oppression, we automatically assume someone else is doing the oppressing. But what about when youíre the one squashing your dreams and sabotaging your plans? When you are oppressing yourself?

Then, it's time to look at when most internalized oppression occurs. Consider the three-phase process for turning your dreams into reality: Dreaming, Planning, and Criticizing. Most oppression takes place during The Planning Phase.

The OppressorWhile The Critic can show up in both The Dreaming and The Planning phases, The Oppressor, cousin to The Critic, usually raises its ugly thumb while you're in the midst of planning your business dream and shuts you up.

Three Obstacles that Arise During The Planning Phase

1. Being too ambitious.

The whole point of The Planning Phase is to put a plan into place to realize the business dream you came up with in The Dreaming Phase. During The Planning Phase, detailed plans of creation come into being. Structure is added, the sequence of events is outlined, and the blueprint is laid out.

The Planning Phase takes the most amount of time when starting up a business. If you don't allow for that time, rush to get through, or start-up before youíve finished planning all the way to the end, The Oppressor will see your business dream as overly ambitious and put its thumb down.

2. Being will-power based.

Will power can only get you so far. When you find yourself "white-knuckling it" and willing your business dream into reality, this means you've prematurely jettisoned from The Planning Phase and are headed for disaster. The Oppressor has been here before with you and recognizes whatís happening. So, while you're strung-out on caffeine trying to make it all happen, your Oppressor is saying, "I don't think so."

3. Being unrealistic, given your life circumstances.

If you sidestep the all-important Criticizing Phase, The Oppressor will bear down on you like a ton of bricks. That's because you havenít allowed The Critic to come out and evaluate your plans in reference to your life or lifestyle.

Planning to go from start-up to profit in six months is unrealistic. The Critic would have found this fault in your plans and pointed it out to you. When you bypass The Critic, The Oppressor stops you from going forward.

So what's the answer?

As they say in Alcoholics Anonymous, "Work the Steps."

Step 1: Have the courage to dream your business dream all the way to the end.

Step 2: Make sure you feel into your dream. Know how achieving that dream will feel to you.

Step 3: Donít rush The Planning Phase. Take all the time necessary to plan your business dream all the way to the end.

Step 4: The Critic plays a vital role in helping turn your dreams into reality. Donít set your business plans into motion until The Critic has looked them over and found the issues that need to be resolved before going forward.

Nobody starts out in life wanting to be unsuccessful. We all want to succeed. When you oppress yourself, you are opposing all forward movement. This happens because you haven't taken the necessary time to plan your business dream all the way to the end.

Dream Into RealityUnderstanding and recognizing the three obstacles to success and where they occur in The Planning Phase will help you end your struggle with success and turn your business dreams into reality.

Copyright © 2008 by Susan L. Reid

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Dr. Susan L. Reid is a business coach and consultant for entrepreneurial women starting up businesses, and is the award-winning author of Discovering Your Inner Samurai: The Entrepreneurial Womanís Journey to Business Success. If you are ready to take the first steps in owning your business, then get instant access to your own free PDF copy of ďDoing What You Love: Multiple Streams of PassionĒ at 

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